People often want beauty without ashes. That is simply not possible. Yes, as God’s children, He will beautify us with His glory. He will place His glory upon us. However, that comes after the ashes, not before.
1 John 1:8-9 says, “if we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”
We all have things in us that need to be purified. There is only one way to remove these things from our life, and that is through God and His fire.
It is God who refines. Surrender to Him sincerely, soon you’ll come out better.